Friday, April 13, 2012
If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success
12WBT 2012 Round 1 Week 10 is just around the corner. If you are new to the program you may be nervous, anxious and excited all at the same time as only 3 weeks stands between you and the end of the first 12 weeks that changed your life. If you are a returning member that has had previous success you may be determined and focused on smashing your goals in the next 3 weeks. If you are a returning member that is a bit disappointed about your previous results you may be doubting yourself and hoping you can get back on track and achieve better results before the end of this program.
Regardless of your feelings, not everyone will support your new lifestyle. The sooner you accept that, the easier your journey will be.
I had a great support crew in my family, close friends, my boss and mini comp teams rounds 2 & 3 2011. I blogged about my support crew in July 2011.
However some people that saw me everyday had no interest in what I was doing, and that is totally ok. YOU need to believe in yourself, it doesn't matter what others think of you... it really doesn't.
I LOVE Lady Gaga. Her music, her lyrics, how she thinks, her interviews, her outfits, etc… they all excite me. None of my friend or family like her. Does that mean I have to stop liking her?? No Way! She's my number 1 iTunes playlist because she makes me feel great :). She is of interest to me and I really enjoy her music. The opinions of others won't change that.
I never actually told the people that didn't show an interest in my new lifestyle about my achievements. I never mentioned how far I can run, how much weight I lost, that I bought my first bikini, how much I can lift, that I bought my first pair of knee high boots, my 12WBT awards, etc... I don't think they deserve to know. They never showed an interest when i was training like a crazy woman, or eating carrot sticks while they ate party pies. They never encouraged me so why share my achievements with them? I don't get any joy sharing my successes with them. Only the people that genuinely care about me got to share in my successes and that was mutually rewarding.
So when someone that have never shown an interest in your new lifestyle, or has criticised you, comes up to congratulate you on your achievements, how genuine can they really be? Do they actually deserve to share your joys? Hmmm... it's just something to think about.
The classic comment I received was from a lady at work that had never spoken to me in the 2 years I had worked there. I had lost about 40kg at the time and she came up to me and said "Have you stopped losing weight yet?!". I wanted to slap her. Instead I graciously said "yes I'm happy with my size now". And she replied "Good, you wouldn't want to lose anymore". I wanted to slap her again but instead I smiled :). This person knows nothing about me and had never spoken to me. Now, if I pass her in the corridor and she looks me up and down, I just smile. Maybe she is jealous? Maybe she doesn't like me? Maybe it's all in my head?!?! In the end I don't actually care as it is not my problem :)
Oh and I have recently been told that a couple of people at work feel uncomfortable around me since I lost weight, however I don't know the exact reason why. At first I cried as i don't want ANYONE to feel uncomfortable around me. Then I started thinking that this could do my head in as I used to analyse EVERYTHING. So I took a step back and calmed down. I am the best version of me ever. I don't share my active and healthy lifestyle with any of them. I don't comment on the food they eat. I don't call them lazy or judge them at all. I rarely talk to them unless it's work related. So I have decided to just let that one go as their insecurity is not my problem. If they give me some facts regarding what I do that makes them uncomfortable I am more than willing to address them. Until then I will continue being me :)
If you are the best version of you and you are happy, share it with those that you love as it may give you all that warm fuzzy feeling inside :) There will always be haters and they are not your problem.
"If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success" - Will Smith
It's been a month between posts and I am finally back. Thanks for reading :)